How to Communicate in a Relationship - Using Talk Time to Recharge Your Relationship

There many couples that exist today who are struggling and who are desperate to know how to communicate in a relationship. Many experts say that effective communication is the key to a successful relationship. Now when I say communication many of you will think about verbal or non-verbal communication - things like making effective word choices, using the right tone of voice, or perhaps using the correct body language. All of these things can help the goal of improving communication in relationships. However, there's another tool that's even more effective in improving communication in relationships. It's called talking. Really.

How can talking be an effective communication tool, you ask? Talking everyday, at least twice a day to your sweetheart helps to maintain an emotional connection. Relationship Coach, Mort Fertel calls this activity "talk charges." It works just like charging a battery, except your not using electricity. You simply talk. You don't talk about the bills, or the kids, or your problems - you can set aside other time to talk about those issues. Simply talking to each other allows you to emotionally connect like you did when you first met. It allows you to talk about what interests you have - or maybe even what passions or dreams you may have. This talking and listening to each other allows you to connect in a way that no other activity can.

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And after all, shouldn't connecting be the goal of any effective communication tool? Talking about the stress in your life or in your marriage doesn't help you to connect. If anything it severs the connection over time until you're just two people who exist together. Tell me, who wants that kind of relationship. Remember how close you felt to each other at first? You could hardly think of anything, or anyone else. Communication or talking just seemed to come naturally.

Isn't it time you "charged up" your marriage? It can be as simple as just talking about whatever your partner enjoys talking and thinking about. Keep it simple, but keep the connection the goal of your discussion. Do what you did when you first met and you couldn't stop talking and thinking about each other. Don't wait until the right moment comes along. Start today by taking charge and start talking. If you do, I believe you will find that avoiding communication problems in a relationship just became a lot easier.

How to Communicate in a Relationship - Using Talk Time to Recharge Your Relationship

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